Amy Duggar recently opened up about her childhood relationships with her cousins, describing them as largely surface-level. During her appearance on the “Unplanned” podcast hosted by Matt and Abby Howard on December 10, 2023, Duggar reflected on her family’s dynamics and the influence of the teachings from the Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP).
Despite spending considerable time together as children, including family trips, Duggar expressed that their interactions lacked depth. “We never really talked about the things we were struggling with or what God was doing in our life,” the 39-year-old stated. Instead, their conversations tended to revolve around mundane topics, such as the weather or compliments about clothing.
Duggar suggested that these superficial connections may be a result of the IBLP’s teachings, which promote a strict adherence to certain social circles. Her husband, Dillon King, added, “They teach, like, if you’re not in that circle, they keep you at arm’s reach.” This dynamic contrasts with the more open relationships she has experienced in her adult life.
Family Expectations and Modesty Standards
Amy Duggar recalled instances where she was asked to conform to her cousins’ modesty standards during visits. While she typically wore jeans, there were occasions when her cousins requested she wear skirts. “I’ve tried on pantaloons before. I’ve tried on one of their swimsuits,” she shared, emphasizing her desire to respect her family’s values.
Duggar also recounted the awkwardness of Dillon’s first meeting with her cousins, noting their strict adherence to IBLP rules. At a bowling venue, Dillon’s carefree attitude—expressed through dancing—prompted confusion among her relatives, who do not engage in such activities. “All my cousins were bowling, and they don’t dance,” she explained. Dillon was unaware of the expectations and was met with a chilly reception from her family.
A Closer Bond with Jill Duggar
Over the years, Amy has cultivated a closer relationship with her cousin, Jill Duggar, particularly after they both starred in the docuseries “Shiny Happy People,” which delves into the controversial aspects of the Duggar family. Reflecting on their bond, Amy joyfully stated, “Cousinship is so much fun. We can joke around and laugh and we have inside jokes.”
She highlighted the importance of feeling safe and understood in their relationship, contrasting it with her childhood experiences. “It’s such a different way of living compared to really what we had growing up,” she said, indicating a shift towards healthier familial interactions.
In a candid moment, Duggar acknowledged the need for boundaries with her extended family, particularly after the tumultuous events surrounding her cousin Josh Duggar. She last spoke to Jim Bob Duggar, her uncle, shortly before Josh’s trial for serious criminal charges related to child pornography, which ultimately led to a sentence exceeding 12 years in prison.
Reflecting on her family dynamics, Amy concluded, “I don’t want to ride a fence… I’m not someone who will say, ‘Oh, I love you and them and everything’s great,’ because it’s not.” Her comments shed light on the complexities of familial relationships within the context of deeply held beliefs and the lasting effects of upbringing.
Amy Duggar’s revelations offer a glimpse into the challenges faced by those navigating family ties influenced by strict teachings, highlighting the importance of authenticity and emotional connections.
