URGENT UPDATE: As Thanksgiving approaches, etiquette expert Miss Manners has released essential tips for hosts struggling with kitchen intrusions during holiday meal preparations. With Thanksgiving just around the corner on November 23, 2023, many families are grappling with how to maintain a peaceful cooking environment while entertaining guests.
In homes featuring an open floor plan, like those combining the kitchen, living room, and dining area, guests are often tempted to drift into the kitchen, creating potential chaos. This holiday season, many hosts are finding ways to deter persistent relatives—like a well-meaning aunt—who hover over the food, sampling dishes before they are ready. Such behavior not only disrupts cooking but also raises concerns about sanitation for other family members.
According to Miss Manners, the key is to set clear boundaries. She suggests using well-placed screens to cordon off kitchen entrances or assigning someone the task of engaging the hovering guests with conversation or an actual food-preparation role. “Thanksgiving is about expressing gratitude, but that doesn’t mean allowing thumbs in the gravy,” she noted.
Additionally, Miss Manners addresses another common dilemma during sit-down meals: the etiquette of when to start eating. Many hosts believe it’s polite to wait until all guests are served before digging in, yet some guests often pressure others to eat prematurely. She advises politely responding with, “Thank you; I will in just a moment,” to assert your stance without causing friction at the table.
Moreover, Miss Manners tackled the issue of guests questioning the origins of the food. Comments like “Did you make this roast?” can catch hosts off guard. While this may seem rude, she suggests the inquiries are often preludes to compliments. The appropriate response? “I did,” followed by a quick offer like, “Would you like some more?” This not only deflects the question but also keeps the conversation flowing.
As Thanksgiving festivities approach, these insights from Miss Manners are vital for ensuring a harmonious gathering. With millions preparing to celebrate across the globe, implementing these etiquette tips can significantly enhance the holiday experience.
Stay tuned for more updates as the holiday season progresses, and ensure your Thanksgiving remains filled with joy and gratitude rather than kitchen chaos.
