UPDATE: Miss Manners has just addressed a pressing issue that resonates with many—how to navigate intrusive questions about academic credentials. In a recent column, she highlights the discomfort many feel when asked about their educational background and performance metrics, making it clear that this conversation often leads to a tricky balance between honesty and humility.
When individuals share where they earned their degree, they frequently encounter comments like, “Wow, you must be really smart,” and probing questions about their GPA or MCAT scores. This can place those answering in an awkward position, as they may feel sharing such personal details comes off as boastful or insincere.
JUST IN: Many readers have expressed their frustration over these personal inquiries, unsure of how to respond without sounding arrogant or disingenuous. Miss Manners humorously suggests a lighthearted approach—when asked about test scores, one might respond with incredulity, “Do you even remember your old test scores?” This tactic not only diffuses tension but also calls out the absurdity of such questions.
As the conversation progresses, Miss Manners emphasizes the importance of social etiquette in today’s fast-paced world. She also tackles the evolving nature of expressing gratitude, particularly in the digital age. Many parents are grappling with how to instill the value of thank-you notes in their children, especially with the rise of e-cards.
IMMEDIATE IMPACT: The shift from handwritten notes to e-cards raises significant questions about the sincerity of gratitude expressions among younger generations. Miss Manners stresses that personal, heartfelt messages—regardless of the medium—are crucial in teaching children the importance of acknowledging kindness.
As social norms continue to evolve, Miss Manners encourages parents to ensure that their children understand the value of a personal touch, reinforcing the lesson that gratitude should not be reduced to mere receipts, whether digital or physical.
The conversation around personal inquiries and gratitude is not just about manners; it reflects deeper societal values. Readers are encouraged to think critically about how they communicate and express appreciation in an increasingly digital world.
For those interested in etiquette guidance, Miss Manners invites questions via her website at www.missmanners.com or through her email at [email protected].
Stay tuned for more updates as Miss Manners continues to navigate the complexities of modern social interactions.
